Some people say that you gain weight through being happy or comfortable -especially when in a relationship.
I met my boyfriend just over 6 years ago. I was finishing my second year of university and thanks to a lot of stress and illness during that period, I’d lost a lot of weight. I was a little skinnier than my normal weight and it was noticed by everyone (especially my family, who love to feed me!) I’m pretty certain if I was obese, my nan would still tell me ‘there is more fat on a chip’.
Over the course of these ‘happy’ 6 years, I have gained around 30lbs – yes – 30! The general comments I get regarding this weight gain is, ‘You’ve gained weight because you’re happy’ or ‘you’re too comfortable’ – not sure what too comfortable means. In fact, I’ve become very uncomfortable with my appearance – and I admit, I have become a little lazy! *hangs head in shame*
But… does being happy make you fat?
I think being content is more of the issue rather than being happy. In fact, I’ve become very unhappy with my appearance. I’m sure there are plenty of women out there in happy relationships who look great and make the time to look great. I think we can get into a rut sometimes, and take for granted that we have a partner, so maybe don’t need to make so much effort after the ‘honeymoon phase’.
I am tired of always having diets on my mind and setting myself ridiculous targets and I am sick of not being able to wear what I want – it is starting to affect my wardrobe! I am always trying to avoid buying clothes I actually like to buy clothes that I feel will ‘flatter’ me.
I want to be able to enjoy myself without worrying about how I look. This isn’t a phase, I’m going to have to change my whole lifestyle!
I do believe that you have to train your mind before you can train your body. Giving up alcohol for September (yes, a whole month!) has shown me I am perfectly capable of controlling what I consume and changing my lifestyle. I’ve also become slightly obsessed with superfoods!
In terms of exercising, I’ve been going to the gym in the mornings before work, and just generally trying to be more active. I’m gradually finding the balance.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this – please comment below 🙂